There's nothing like positive reinforcement from yourself - this comes from my days playing tennis btw with no knowlege of hypnosis or NLP etc; simply think of all the great and successful times you have had in the game and visualise them evey day, when ever you find yourself walking or with a free moment.
hypnosis and NLP can only take you so far, friend... the only thing that will give you rock hard self esteem is to believe in yourself and vrouwen verleiden to achieve your goals. the only thing that will do that is to undo all the social programing and shit you have gone through all your life until now. its hard, and hypno and NLP will help with it... but the thing that will cement it for you is seeing results from learning the game.
the first time you do something you never before thought possible you will realise that you CAN be the man you KNOW you are. that one moment will change you forever because its the moment you realise its not just other guys talking shit.